Rachel Rode Thank you for this

Rachel Jade James I keep seeing this "stimming" being mentioned...how do people find it helps? I refuse personally to use this technique because if I focus on that, it enhances my bad habits ...I tend to use chores as a distraction then segregation of my anxiety ...it fuels my issues rather than settles them

Dean Long Does anyone stim with a small piece of thread or string wound as tightly as you can

Stephanie Leskowitz Maybe it’s not what you’re saying but how you’re saying it. You could say anything but the tone might be off putting.

Terence Pope If they don't like grab your ankles so they have a good target to kiss your ass 2

Luke Pippin I’m somewhat that way. I notice often times due to my interests, sometimes I know a lot more about a subject than the person I’m talking to, to a point where I totally lose them. So over time I’ve felt the need to bring it down to their level of knowledge and understanding in order to make sense. But I have to be careful to not sound like I’m “dumbing it down” and making it sound like I think they’re stupid. It’s a someone hard balance to find, but some say I explain things very very clearly, so I suppose I’ve succeeded some of the time.Anyway, that’s just my experience haha. Take it for what it’s worth. 3

Scott Wilhelm Yes. I used to make people upset through explanations professionally. I used to be a teacher. 1

Janie Doe Been there but now I learned to answer the question and if they ask for details. Then I'll give it to them 1

Amanda Bailey Cole I like to know things, so as a result, I know a lot and if I am not careful, I can come across as a know-it-all. You are not responsible for how much people know, but you are responsible for how you treat people. It sounds like you need to find a middle ground between talking to people like they are peers (people who know as much as you) and talking to people like they are 5yr olds (aka you think they are stupid). Trust me, people can tell when you think they are stupid, and know one wants to talk to a person like that. You can accept that and move on, or make some changes so that you can get along with people better.

Kim Kelly I'm in this group because I believe that my spouse has Asperger's. It's destroying our marriage (I think, if that's what he has) I'm trying to get a better handle. I've always known he has dyslexia and admired his uniqueness but this is deeper than that. I'm always asking him to explain how he got where he did when he says things that make absolutely no sense with the current conversation. Once he breaks it down (with a lot of coaxing) I can understand how it relates..... usually.

Stacee Streeter Don't ever ask me how I am. I might tell you.

Karl G. Van Burkleo Yes. But usually it is because I have to much detail.

Kirsten Locke Yep.

Evelyn Ebenstein Filippi communication is hard

Shaena Dean Since I have synthetic understanding rather than linear and do not think in words explaining is nearly impossible and I have to laboriously break it down which is exhausting and people claim I over explain, yet when i give only what I need to figure it out they are completely lost so i have to because who knows what they need

Jessica Don Leo Californya 1

Elin Idéhn People don't get upset really. But when i explain things i tend too do it twice, the first time more detailed and the second one more simplified, because that's what I need when people explain a task to me. That bothers people a little sometimes.

Leo Californya My girlfriend tells me that I tend to say things that are difficult to understand. Especially when I am discussing something I am passionate about. With her help I've learned to simplify certain aspects of the information I'm conveying. There is no need to simplify everything and risk sounding condescending. Just learn to recognize which concepts are easy for you but difficult for most others and communicate in a way that is challenging, but understandable. The more legitimate questions your listener asks, the more successful your presentation. You may know more than others about certain things, but if you dont know how to share what you know, then what good is it? Communication is among the most important skills we humans have. Without the ability to express ourselves fully and truly be heard by others, we become islands. And islands often become lost and empty.Its difficult to share when you have so much, but the effort to learn sufficient communication skills is well worth it. Just keep trying. You'll get it 1

Andrew Dickinson Not just you. We're all mad here.Read Dr Tony Attwood's books.

Joey Neal Oh ya and now it going to cost a lot of people because as soon as can making charges and suing everyone invloved.. I am going to be heard I want to get justice for all Autistics I am sick hearing the stories of us not getting justice..

Michelle Scott Yes

Alex Ocana I posted twice about my perception of sound/color/"sparklies" both of which disappeared without a comment or even a like. Never knew there was a name for it and I thought everyone sees sound. I am working, maybe I will have time later to try and describe it again. Note: My last post on sound got buried because the flood of back n forth overwhelmed it into the basement. 2

Chris English Some.

Cynthia Hilton Fascinating. I have heard of people seeing auras but not this. 1

Robert Ledger what the fuck 1

Shaena Dean i do 1

Catherine Jackson I'd heard of this but don't experience it myself. You make it sound cool 1

Kirsten Locke Have had synesthesia my whole life.Similar to yours - I can ‘see’ sounds. Not just color but shapes, too.And occasional smell mixed in.Or smells trigger the colors/shapes. I’m myopic - near sighted. Didn’t get glasses until I was nearly 7 years old.So I think some of what might have ‘triggered’ the synesthesia for me is that, due to not seeing very well(everything blurry &/or blobby) my brain connected sounds to the color blobs.Is just my theory for myself.

Kay Wiggins Maybe "amazing" has kind of built up more than you can handle now. Do some things you love by yourself. Walk outside, play some music, things you enjoy? Give yourself a break...everyone does this, not just Aspies. 2

Rachel Rode I get easily overwhelmed by sounds and it can derail even the best day. Maybe there's a sensory issue? I hope you feel better 3

Pól O'Laoghaire The biggest help to me today was just being able to post this. I feel sometimes that expressing the problem in a somewhat public way helps with the coping 4

Cynthia Hilton I have always had high anxiety but FINALLY I will be getting some SSI benefits so I have been getting weekly acupuncture treatments along with holistic supplements and I am finally starting to feel calmer Praise God! 2

Frankie Major Most people don’t believe in this but I think when the moon is full that I have a lot of anxiety. When I learned that we are mostly made out of water I thought about how the moon can change the tides of the ocean so we must be changed too. 6

Kirsten Locke What goes up must come down.Happens to me all the time.Had a Dr. explain that even good stress(happy/satisfying days) is still stress. Hormones, enzymes, etc, build up.The body’s biochemistry is trying to balance things. 1

Jeffrey Berry Just take it easy, Relax into things.

Anthony Reddell Some people with Aspergers use humour as a way to mask thier social anxiety. Everything in moderation though, you need to be careful with masking because at the end of the day it could stress you up and tire you out. I'm not good with small talk so i often using humour just to make a conversation.

Jenny Anne Moreno I had sensory overload yesterday at work. Because the outside lights by the drivethru window was flickering. And I could see it reflect off of the cars tops. And I told my managers the light is messing with my eyes. So I started cleaning instead. Last 15 mins of my shift I was back in the front helping them. Then today I took a nap from 2pm-9pm. 1

Steve Jones I hope you are doing well and having a better day today mate 1

Dayna Tolman Often the few days leading up to a full moon can cause many people to get a bit less sleep and experience more general restlessness. Maybe make note of the days you are having higher anxiety and see when it’s happening in relationship to diet, the planets and/or other life events. You might find some patterns that you can address. Hang in there we are here for you the best we can be : ). 2

Pól O'Laoghaire I felt better in the evening. Not so bad today. But it's still lurking... I'll be fine 3

Heather Declue It was pointed out to me last year. I tend to stare or unnaturally fix my eyes for the camera and my smile comes across as discomfort/gremis(?) like....slightly mysterious harder and harder to mask as I get older. 2

Heather Declue 6

Heather Declue Except now......I feel less and less obligated to mask and or be perceived in any certain way?(key word being “less”) Hard for me to accept that my daily discomfort is noticeable to say the least but is so passively ignored. My last therapist actually asked me why I “wanted”/needed my ASD diagnosis, that no one is going to treat you any differently. 3

Rachel Rode I have always thought I looked weird smiling or in pictures. I either have my eyes shut or open too much, I look like Wednesday Addams when I smile 1

Clara Lima I relate. I remember when I was around that age 11, 12 developing a young lady's body, there was a lot of perverts that looked in a inappropriate way. This sucks, made me very uncomfortable and afraid of something bad. 2

Lori Lynn My daughter started this in middle school age 11 and 12. Closed mouth smile and hiding emotions. I can recognize Aspergers, depression, Mania and lying in the eyes because I’ve been around a lot of it. It’s just like I can’t hide my emotions, it’s all over my face when I’m mad, sad or happy. I’m horrible at hiding my feelings. 1

Shaena Dean Same with the hair at around 12, same reasons 1

Carolina Abarca I hated being complimented by grown men when I was child. I never liked showing skin and especially not in front of men, it made me feel so uncomfortable. I would always look down so that I wouldn’t have to make eye contact. 1

Rosearie Ornelasvaldiva Selena has always had a crooked smile she feels uncomfortable when older men compliment herShe always blushed when guys her age compliment her

Joey Neal Don't go to Missouri or Ohio believe me don't.. 1

Sydney Farnam Arkansas State University is very supportive in the Neurodivergent area. They offer lots of accommodations as well. 1

Chris English I grew up in Ohio, which is next to Indiana and in many ways very similar. But that was a LONG time ago, long before anyone knew much of anything about autism. There were no supports and no accommodations back then. 1

Brianna Regina I like my college in Massachusetts. They have good support programs. 1

John Benjamin David Tatum California for my Undergrad and the UK for my Graduate School. 1

Rosearie Ornelasvaldiva California it's pretty supportive 1

Gladys Suarez Thank you for the feedback!

Victoria Gill Massachusetts is particularly forward thinking/acting in this area

Ryan Battison Yes lol I refuse to go to Walmart for any reason. I would rather starve lol

Jilly Barlow Yes I can relate

Heather Warner I'd rather stay in myself.

Fiona Woollard I can relate at the age of 57

G Eric Hultman I'm 72. The quarantine has been a bit of a blessing in disguise for me for the same reasons. 5

Rachel Rode I'm 40 and spend a huge amount of time at home, I can go out for a max of like 4 hours a week 1

Alex Ocana Jo Schmalhurst Longenbaugh. Yes, same age as you and I only go out maybe 3 times a month to get groceries. But I have to say, I live on a point above the ocean surrounded by forest and stay outside a lot, have a working carpentry shop and a two day a week helper. My NT granddaughter going to come and stay early next year (after COVID opens travel).

Lila Grace Yes. Absolutely no one is allowed in my house

Abraham Robinson In a year where I live, nobody makes it to my room only if the dogs don't mind

Chris English Yep.

Russell Summers I am on a farm. No one comes here and I don't need to go into town 1

Randall Fredette I am right there with you. I like dogs better than i like most people. 3

Cheryl Hoefelmeyer Totally, and I’m 20 years younger

David Allen White I'm the same way. I feel bad for people who are suffering from isolation during the pandemic because I'm isolated but not suffering. 1

Steve Jones Absolutely. I've been like that my whole life.

Josh Butz Lines are my mortal enemy. Instantly get stressed and anxious. Crowds I can deal with if they aren’t like super packed shoulder to shoulder. 1

Joey Neal I am 62 I already have can not stand crowds at all any more not like being arounbd people I started about 8 years ago.. I only go out if I have to see family doctor kidney doctor or get blood taken or xrays I once in blue moon go to store with my little sister but it been over a month since i been to store was doing that when I lived with my mom an dad too.. We lived next door to people who shot my litle dog with bb gun harassed us teased dogs bad so stayed home a lot now staying home a lot because older sister trating and crazy scared she will come here do something to my dog and cat she had way to many fires and she is mentaly unbstable I believe I lived with her 3 months I fear for my life she so creepy..I like being home anyways really not like being in crowds at all any more..

Miriam Aguirre I am 50 and there is no place like home. 3

Marilyn Mitchell I don't mind crowds but I am "allergic" to lines. I only avoid most situations now because of the mandated masks in my town. I stay home much much more now and need more rest to "reboot" my brain, now that I am almost 70. 2

Eric Collier I've always been that way, even as a kid. 2

Edward Tudor Covid has improved town because the streets are empty.I have to go to the bank once a month and in the current lockdown it is easy to park the car and visit the banks.I can be home in less than an hour. 3

Jiří Horváthová I'm a total recluse. I avoid humans ar all costs. I just don't particularly like them! 1

Des Iree Yes and I'm 34

Kathleen Weber Carlin Yes and I’m in 50s

Karen Storay Absolutely I am 63

Jennifer Cassida Burr Yes im feeling same way

Rachel Rode I find wearing stretchy jeans is much more comfortable for me. They sell them in Ross, from what I've had 1

Celia Williams I hate skinny jeans but I bought some boot cut at old navy. 1

Liv Oulch I have this same issue. I like to wear yoga pants under lose jeans so I don’t feel the fabric! 1

Chrissy-Sunshine Shallow Walmart has jegging style leggings. 2

Talena Amanda Goodwin My daughter hated the way jeans felt. She was able to wear lose ones that were more soft 1

Ami Lavacek Why does she want to wear something that makes her uncomfortable?

Tina Thomas Lined jeans?

Liz Daniel Jeggings or stretchy jeans. They aren't as scratchy as regular jeans 1

Cortney Jones Jeggings from target!!! My daughter has SPD along with Aspergers those are her favorite and the only ones she will wear bc they are so soft & feel like leggings

Clara Lima It's very hard to find jeans with soft material and no pinching. Go for 100% cotton, extra soft and very well sewed from inside.

Stephanie Leskowitz Old Navy

Shane Bass Jeggings

Alex Ocana Loose ones, Wash them twenty three times, less if you do it on stones in the river.

Cindy Billings We found that jeans from justice have a soft material band around the top. Mu daughter had 2 pairs that sometimes she would wear. They go up to 20 kids size and also have a plus size right up to 20. For kids.

Cindy Billings Or we would go to thrift stores and she would feel them qll in her size till one felt ok in her hands. Sexond hand ones are already well washed. We did that with most of her clothes. 1

Shaena Dean jean colour/print on soft chinos or stretch pants

Jean Kelley What worked for me, when I was a teen,was to buy used Jeans at Goodwill.This way I find find jeans that were already soft and broken in.

Kayla Bennett I find the walmart jeggings feel a lot like leggings and are most comfortable. But i buy a size up to ensure they're comfortable. I can't wear jeans cause the fabric. I feel that. So i wear leggings every day. Honestly the jeggins aren't bad feeling when they rub my legs and they're only like $12 something.

Cindi Guarino My son has never been able to wear jeans.

Bobbie Cortes Get her jagging‘s they are leggings that look like jeans so comfortable 2

Kirsten Locke Sounds similar to my youngest son, an Aspie/HFA.Speech therapy, delayed speech issues. The potty issues went on until his teens. And yes, a ‘report card’ via school with disparate highs & lows is also typical of many/most Aspies.Once past the pandemic, you might want to have him (re)evaluated for HFA. My son received speech help very early(thanks to me pushing the experts & hard-time advocating for him) but he didn’t receive the correct, Asperger’s diagnosis until he was 13. Good luck! *hugs*

Gerald Hughes I'm Aspie and have 6 children, some on and some off the spectrum. 1

Alex Ocana I have been meaning to ask the same question. All my kids and grandkids are (as far as I know) completely typical.

Rachel Rode I think my kids are both aspie but they haven't been officially diagnosed. However, I believe i get it from my birth father and my half sister on that side is NT 1

Misty Sadler Following 1

Amy D'Acquisto Yes. One NT and one ND. There were signs immediately after birth with the ND, but she was only diagnosed with ODD and sensitivity issues. And she could draw amazingly from the age of two, lined up toys in tertiary categories, and more. The first one (11 years prior) was as NT as you could be. I did not know I was ND until 52. Although I was tested at 5, those results were hidden from me indefinitely.

Kara Ann I have 2 kids and at this stage both are nt. But one is 3 months so cant tell yet. And the other is looking like she might but shes only 2 years old and has a hogh chance of adhd as she has a chromosome disorder which makes it a higher risk 1

Keira Fraley Can I ask what NT means?

Heather Mentz I have 1 NT daughter 1

Sara Han Yes my son was finally given his diagnosis this week. My daughters aren't on the spectrum. But kind of unsure of my youngest. 1

Michael Blauser My daughter has Aspbergers just like me 1

Rebecca Castle I'm an Aspie and have 2 children. One has ADHD like me. I also have 5 grandkids of which 2 has ADHD.

Debbie Lowe-Rasnake I have 1 aspies and 2 NT but they have a different father. My husbands cousin has aspies so i windered the same thing

Anne-marie Gardner 1 on spectrum 2 not 1

Justyna Brewitt One on spectrum , one not 1

Rosearie Ornelasvaldiva I have 4. 3 on spectrum 1 not 1

Shane Bass diagnosed at 31 with asperger disease. after borderline personality, and MS

Kirsten Locke My third child is NT. High intel, handsome and charming. My 2nd & 4th children are on the spectrum.My eldest is neither NT nor on the spectrum - she has lifelong depression and a few chronic health issues since her early teens. 1

Emma Richardson My dad has AS but my brother and I do not

Michelle Scott What is NT?

Joey Neal I am autistic and have 5 sisters none them are but 2 are mentally ill one died the other still alive she one abusedme and junk they are older.. I think my father may have been on spectrum because few things I seen him do reptived stuff and he was very good with numbers I am not he was I think little above avrage in smarts and he had meltdowns the older he got the more he had.. Growing up we sure got beat but all kids did back then in the 60s and 70s it how parents were most of what I seen.. He did not put us in hospital or nothing just smaked you good sometimes beat tar out of you give you a welt now and them bruses.. Helikwe to hit me on my back a lot but I sorvived like all others things are different now a days but back them tyou saw parents pounding hitting kids all time.. 1

Brendan Robert Franklin Miller karma is a bitch lol

Randall Fredette Homer Simpson flashback?

Brendan Robert Franklin Miller yes but the opposite effect

Brendan Robert Franklin Miller why does dis shit always happen to me lol

Rachel Rode Play GIFTenor 1

Brendan Robert Franklin Miller first i get blown up by a bear with a rocket launcher then i get my pie stolen by him then i get stabbed in the butt by a psychotic rabbit and it stealts my cake then bambo machine guns me down for taking his glock 7 oh and then some pop tart cult captures me and tries to sacrifice me in the name of the pop tart god for more pop tarts but no worries i never die i always respawn and die again lol

Brendan Robert Franklin Miller because dying is gay XD

Craig Hoffman Play GIFTenor

Rachel Rode I like it, actually 5

Thomas Cook Love this movie! Clint Eastwood is a boss! 4

Shellee Dene' Hightower Yep! Bothers everyone else I know but I have been enjoying myself-not HAVING to get out and go do stuff. 5

Ashley Victoria Yes 1

Chika Matsumoto Yes.... and I kind of like it . 1

David Allen White Yes, this is me. 1

Rosearie Ornelasvaldiva Love this

Donovan Winterberg Unsocial is very different from anti-social. 2

Steven Hammon Utterly true here. 1

Bruce Mah Not anti-social, but just liking my own company without people judging me.

Thomas Barnard Exactly how it is with me... 1

Joey Neal yep as this virus it causing many to miss being out and about it does not effect my life at all..LOL

Elizabeth Burnett Or your life gets better in my case. 2

Lark LaTroy Hear Hear, about time people realized that my anti-social attitude was Avantgarde. I'm ahead of my time. 1

Silvana Andric Depends what trigger is and everyone is apsolutely different... there is not two apsies same... trigger could be smell, words, too much sun, noise etc. depends... 1

Diana Treadway I had one today caused by anxiety and some other issues in having so any thing can cause them 1

Shaena Dean lack of control/frustration/ feeling bombarded by stimulation and cannot focus when actions or choices may matter and you cannot function due to being overwhelmed and therefore panic that things will not get done or will fall apart in some way, for example things that could break/burn/fall/ timelimits/transport/communication while people are all talking and spilling things and blocking you etc. For example trying to communicate something important or time sensitive to someone, like if they do X the pot will boil over/burn, and they argue irrelevant details and talk over you and stand in the way of the stove so you lose your words and mental train over and over and over as you see the thing happening anyway because you cannot get the thought through. I cannot hear people talk and keep my train of thought at the same time. I find it especially awful when a teacher talks loudly through a timed test or has someone read text aloud because I cannot read the words or think while they make mouth noises I have to parse, listening is in a different part of my brain and I will end up with a blank test 1

Jeffrey Baer I don't have meltdowns. I provoke them. 2

Shelley James It varies

Evelyn Ebenstein Filippi what does a meltdown mean

Shaena Dean being in big crowds where everyone keeps bumping/pressing you in a stream and you cant get away 3

Steve Champney Not being understood 5

Shaena Dean repetitive noises like chewing or clicking or dripping

Rachel Rode Noise, stress, confrontation, anxiety, so many things

Shaena Dean itchy/constraining/painful clothing while trying to complete an unrelated task (ie clothing tags/corset/heels/wind blowing hair in face/nylons slowly sliding down thighs/blisters forming/sweating/rain starting but carrying heavy bags home and cannot stop or use hands,) I will seem to freak out and lose my mind at the TASK and throw down bags and wig out but it is actually the physical stim irritant happening while i try to focus on doing anything at all causing it 4

Patrick Markiewicz Anxiety for me 1

Shaena Dean being asked to do tasks inadequately in an unreasonably short time frame (we are compulsively thorough) , bonus freakout if you then harry , interrupt, question and harass me while i scramble 2

Shaena Dean bad smells/ humidity/ excessive heat 2

Jo Schmalhurst Longenbaugh Too much people contact at their insistence 2

Cortney Jones Today my 10 yr old daughters was because when her 8 yo brother says sorry to her he never looks at her so she thinks he doesn’t even mean it....The other day it was because her shirt and pants and everything else didn’t fit right and her pants legs felt like they were 2 different lengths...Last month she had a melt down over everything because the day previous she spent time with family outside her normal routine and even though she enjoyed herself in the moment she came crashing down the next day from over stimulation everything was upsetting her so she spent most of the day with her headphones on, in her zone, watching videos

Amber Patricia Dealing with fucking shit at home 1

Steve Dubois Overload 9

Matt Giesler Being overwhelmed by multiple stressors 5

Shaena Dean overly needy people that think they are somehow supporting you and being noble by demanding immediate interactive validation for their 'support' which involves getting right up in your face too close while talking incessantly right at you about super personal things, touching/grabbing hugging at you, trying to stare in your eyes, asking grossly invasive questions and getting progressively more pushy and emotionally harassing and intrusive when you do not validate them with correct phrases and overtly emotionally over the top replies on demand while you are still trying to deal with your actual issue 1

Brianna Regina Bullying

Shellee Dene' Hightower Depends on you but personally I have the worst time when I’m trying to talk something out with someone. If I don’t feel like the talk is getting anywhere. Like- They don’t seem to be understanding me or maybe they are repeating themselves as if I’m not understanding them, sometimes I am, sometimes I may not be. I cannot handle it if I think they are just not understanding me and also I don’t handle people repeating themselves very well. Those are probably 2 of my major triggers. Especially if the other person insists we keep talking even though I have said I feel I need to back off to calm down, that’s not helpful in the least. Also depends on the day or week, if the day/week went bad or good, that can either help cause or help prevent a meltdown. Other things can play a role in preventing or help cause a meltdown, if I did or didn’t sleep well or schedule is going as planned or is messed up or say several things went wrong in the day and all of sudden someone needs to talk to me about something. Or I can’t get a pan (as an example) out of the cabinet after several things went wrong and then that’s it... 6

Lila Grace Overstimulation 4

Andrew Fechenbach People 2

Ami Lavacek Stress and over stimulation 3

Brianna Regina Bullying especially in the workplace. When people ask me why don’t I have friends. I’ll melt down because it’s hard for me to socialize and whatever comes out of my mouth comes from tv. When you put my hand in my bag at work thinking it’s funny. Calling a girl disgraceful names when you don’t even know her. I have seen so much bullying from school to work makes me wonder how I even deal with people anymore. Bullying from others leads to meltdowns 1

Brianna Regina Or even playing the role they ask you to play then you don’t develop a sense of the bigger picture. Or when you try to show them what there doing to you behind your back but there too stupid to realize that.

Debbie Lowe-Rasnake Thank you ALL for sharing i found alot of your answers to be helpful with my son and trying to understand his needs 2

Doink McDoinkerson Group projects back in high school. A lot of that has stuck with me throughout life. A group project alone was hard enough to handle, but for some reason the teachers always put me in groups with the hottest chick in the class and the popular kids, which only made it even worse. I got straight F's all through high school because I was just too depressed to care about anything, so I always so far behind in every class and just didn't care, so then I always felt guilty about dragging the other kids in the group down with me. Either they had to work harder to make up for me or they simply got a lower grade than they would have had it not been me in the group. So that just ended with more kids mad at me, more people who hated me.About 3/4 through my first year of high school I had conditioned myself to just not interact with anyone, not talk to anyone, not do anything, because it only ended with people being mad at me. I learned very quickly that I'd rather have the others go "Oh there's that quiet loser kid" if they saw me rather than "Oh god, I hate him!"If I had a heads up that a group project was coming up, I would just skip those days (or that specific class) for the days during the project. But of course sometimes those aren't announced before hand or in any sort of syllabus, so I'd get caught on those ambush days. I never knew what was worse; the teacher assigning groups or just calling out to get in groups of 4 or 5. I always tried to just sit in the back corner and be invisible. Some of the teachers understood the situation and just wouldn't say anything or embarrass me further. Others would go out of their way to make it even worse, having seen me sitting there, not in any group, not doing anything, but after all the other kids would turn in their projects or do their little presentation, they'd look at me and call out "And what about you? Do you have a project to turn in?" and I'd just have to shamefully go "no."Seriously, that kind of stuff forever scarred me and still sticks with me all these years later. 3

Alex Townsend Loud noises and extremely judgemental people

Clara Lima 2

Atif Fayyaz Mughal https://www.fiverr.com/share/plrQw8

Kelly Andrews Masking for too long. It's so much mental energy to think about all you have to do... 1

Soreka Oosthuizen I don't have words for my meltdown but painted it to show my therapist one day. This what it feels like to me... 8

Avarie Holt Existing 2

Mark White A build up of many things all at once, to Many people all talking at once, loud constant un-legible continuous white noise, rude people and perceived disrespect. 2

Angie White Mine is to many things at once. My partner knows how to set me off. 6

Zarina Ellis Overload and unable to take on anymore. 2

Jeannie Mills Anything 1

Charlotte Lea changes 1

Jen Jen Life 1

Kayla Bennett Anything tbh. Ive had a meltdown over not having ketchup on a bad day. Im not even gonna lie. I made some fries and there was no ketchup and i just started sobbing I think It depends on the day and my mental state for me. 2

Russell Summers I am very embarrassed when it happens, but when it does it is the frustration of not being able to take the idea in my head and communicate it to someone else.

David Gutteridge Stuff like the 'right answer' not being done in my case but it has to be extreme

Pete Tebbs Noise, Bright lights, crowds. Sensory overloads. When I cannot get across my thoughts because stupid humans cannot understand what I am trying to explain to them

Dag Roman My son has meltdowns with people who are very sick or hurt. He has a huge heart even if he doesn't like them (there are not many people he doesn't like). Needless to say he has his dog-not certified- but she can calm him in 10 minutes where it takes me 3 to 4 hrs. 2

Bobbie Cortes When they can’t express themselves or don’t understand certain concepts 1

Gabby Wood Anxiety 1

Hannah Reading Things dropping and falling, loud noises, people not greeting me properly 2

Vivia Waag Viderø For me it’s socializing.And loud noices. For example dripping or kissing noices.

Arm Nakornthab Any unexpected event 1

Jiří Horváthová When someone won't leave me alone.

Heidi Valdez Roeglin Bob Birdsong good info in these answers 1

Christina Tornérhielm overload, really it can be anything. people, crowds, not being understood. it is different for everyone.

Michael J Proctor Life in general 2

Heather Declue Depends on your triggers.

Horsie Blu When theyre stressed...Too much input...Too many people approaching them...When someone harass, bully or teased them...

Frankie Major For me it’s mostly sensory overload. Too much noise, light, stimulation during a moment that I’m working on a challenging task or being timed. 2

Summer Anne Raetz Too much input! 1

Cynthia Hilton Too much stimuli at once 1

Lark LaTroy Too many activities with rapidly shifting rules or fixes. For example, I work in IT, sometimes a problem comes up, that is overwhelming in many cases. Add into that many people trying to tell everyone else how to do their jobs, talking over each other on the conference call, and then not coming up with a solution, but still wanting the issue fixed. This has been my last three days. Guess what?I'm very close to having a meltdown, and I really don't want to. 2

Ralphy Scout Varela-Urizar Holding in burnouts.

Simon Faure I'm in a sales position dealing with many companies and their competing demands and own companies different and sometimes different priorities and agenda its often takes me close to meltdown but then I remember its all a game so I play my version and then see what happens 1

Daniel Embree Frustration and other people’s incompetence... 1

Juhani Vallikari Life, universe and everything.

Michelle Scott Being attacked verbally, called names, etc.

Marilyn Mitchell any situation that is unsolvable. 1

Horsie Blu Teasing...bullying...too much input on him....My son started getting stressed and anxiety due to the above problem...i gave him a lot of reassurance, some fruits and smoothies like bananas grapes etc etc and MAGNESIUM tablet for a month...He settled...Hes off magnesium tablet now...hes fine

Estelle Lita Brian Homeboy: Hi Brian, are you on Facebook Messenger? If you are, is it/would it be OK if I messaged you? (Only if you're OK with that)? I could send you some information about meltdowns that you might find helpful/and/or useful?

Brianna Regina Bullying 1

Stuart Taylor People! 2

Joey Neal abuse people 2

Whitney Teig I would say that is accurate most of the time for me. My sister and I fought our entire childhood. But once we went off to college and were on our own, we became best friends. 3

Jeffrey Baer Depends on who those people are. My family was one thing--sort of. People who wish I wasn't around them are a different matter. 1

Wendy Allen Yes 1

Scott Wilhelm Lots of people. It's a thing. "Absence makes the Heart grow fonder.

Chris English Naw. Still don’t like them. They do stupid things with laws and vaccines and Crap. 1

Chad M. Marchant Much easier

Brianna Regina Yes all the time

Rachel Rode Not even then 2

Jody Marie I’m sorry. The only thing that helps my partner is meditation, deep breathing and hot and cold showers. I hope you can find a little relief. 1

Janine Hayward Find an access consciousness fascilirator who has done the xmen course. Or just get your bars run to start. Pulls me back from the edge, every time..xx

Jerome Holzheimer It’s more than Okay to cry and to feel the emotion your feeling.. Don’t hold on to negative emotions just be yourself Sending Love and Blessings

Rachel Rode Oh honey I feel it I hope you feel better soon.

Elizabeth Burnett You just hang in there and rest eat sleep if you can and know you are not alone. My body crashed this week with a chronic pain condition that has been under control, add stress upon stress etc. I end up not moving for two days. I just had to “ease into” the inevitable crash and rest rest rest...this to shall pass Vinny. After you take some time you may realize you need to make a change... don’t be afraid just ease into the pain and suffering, feel the pain but make a mental expiration date on it. 1

Jennifer Cassida Burr I isolate when that happens and take care of my self i use thc to help as well as my hobies talk to some one abput it as well

Jennifer Cassida Burr Over stemulation is common for me

Martin Flaherty Maybe an aspie's flat affect is calming to animals? 1

Maddison Hardie I'm often good with animals. I seem to notice different things and react differently. Mistreated animals are my forte.

Scott Wilhelm Most cats love me. Dogs are kind of hit-or-miss.

C.A. Cross I always had a way with animals and my daughter is phenomenal with horses. Give her a difficult horse and watch her work. It’s amazing to watch. 1

Kay Wiggins My dogs LOVE my husband and just fawn over him. It's disgusting.

Emma Grocock Following as I too would like to know 2

Katie Ricotta Try finding the cause, keep/make a schedule at home, be consistent and talk about kind words. Be very specific and literal and use future tense instead of the past. Like "next time let's find a kind thing to say. Such as "you look nice" etc... 3

Horsie Blu Give them some happy food or drink like banana kiwi/ apple/carrot smoothies .....chocolate banana smoothies drink....banana mango/ any fruit smoothies...Give them some activities to do like computer games, computer puzzles, toys, puzzles to do...Bring them out to the park and have a walk and fresh air..Give them a small animal cat to play n stroke them...to calm them down..Play some mellow or relaxing musicGive them a small puppy dog to play with...Just leave them with toys and leave them alone to help them calm down...Play some low volume music tooAspergers are shy people and loves to be in their own world...by being on their own.. 1

Hannah Reading It sounds like he's really overwhelmed. Behaviour is communication. Have you tried talking to him and asking him what's making him angry and overwhelmed?Give him stim toys and talk about special interests or play his favourite songs to distract him 4

Rachel Rode Mine enjoy hugs and reassurance, lots of help with chores and schoolwork 2

Kristie Evans Reinforce positive behavior. Finding the cause. 2

Chrystie Frank Following 1

Yasmina Guermouche Following 1

Jaime Nasta Mine dances we put music on and dance. Good luck 2

Anne Wallace Find music they like 1

Carrie Love Hold him accountable for his behaviour too, we have some control. 1

Joey Neal Something causing it they we do not have meltdown or hit bite or anything unless something or someone is causing it.. Loud music lights touch or someone is abusing (not you just saying some) I am gues it noise or light maybe even a tee shirt tag on his shirt or his socks something is caising this.. I check sound lights and touch see if anything there.. Or is someone bulling him and you don't know it.. 1

Jennifer Cassida Burr Treat him like any other child 1

Jennifer Cassida Burr Check if its overstomuliation 2

Iasthai Peterson Being around him too much might give him a claustrophobic feeling or he might feel intruded on.In my case both and it is highly annoying. 1

Cindy Billings CBT and DBT training if they will buy in if nit teach them yourself. It's really needed. Helps them communicate feeling. Nit just explode. Also puberty my daughter just finally called a little at 16 1

Joe Western Can somebody explain to me what a "meltdown" is? 1

Karen Don Messner Perry It does get better 2

Gerald Hughes If he's experiencing meltdowns its a sure sign he's under too much stress and likely too much sensory exposure.He is currently living way beyond his sensory limits. As part of his care, his 'world' needs to shrink down to an appropriate amount of responsibility and sensory input for him. He may not like it and there needs to be care in making any adjustments but once the proper balance of freedom, responsibility and support are attained, most of his meltdowns will disappear.The source of his anger needs to be determined. Is it failure, frustration, sadness/loss?His behaviors are a roadmap to what's wrong with his world. Hope that helps... Messaging ok. 4

Jennifer Moore With love and care and understanding..this is the way he/she is wired and how the processing occurs...no one tries to change Eeyore from being a depressive realist...the “why” is much more important than the “what.” Don’t look at behavior...except as a symptom...try things that help with neuro processing...here’s a short list....1-keep lights low and soothing sounds2-weighed blankets3-background noise like fish tank or white noise4-water or sand play5-fidget toys6-swings or things that rock 2

Clara Lima Paying attention to his wellbeing is preventive, because meltdowns are sign of overwhelm 6

Trudy Anderson Quaal Lots of love and positive reinforcement for good behavior just like any child that age. 2

Kate Court Provide logic not emotional tools. 1

Chris English IMO , discipline. But it might already be too late. 3

Bianca Palmieri Following. My 8yo son is the same. Sometimes we can get out of it quicker with a distraction or something he likes doing, but not often. Most of the time I find nothing helps and sometimes we have days on end of meltdowns and angry behaviour/attitude. I talk to him a lot and he knows he can try to tell me when he doesn't feel OK but most of the time he has no idea why he feels so bad himself. I wish I could make it better, it can be exhausting for us both.. 1

Shaena Dean CBT 1

Shaena Dean teach and practice clear patterns of behavior for him to plan to try and do in certain situations and emotional places that take venting and need for escape into account (focused behavior/directed time out with clear steps, locations, postures, a numbered list, 1 put down objects gently, 2 walk to corner and face wall, three loudly say you need a moment to manage yourself 3 (make sure everyone leaves the kid alone and doesnt touch or crowd them), 4 give them breathing exercises where they count to four while breathing in and four while breathing out, perhaps with eyes closed and hands over ears a specific number of times and then 5 have them clearly state what they have as a goal to solve their problem and what might help when they are ready) make it logical and specific, not general, you can coach -*at a physical distance*- through the numbered steps and postures (ie what is step one? What is next?) instead of uselessly yelling, crowding, making emotional pointless pleas etc. 6.have the kid write down the list, have them name the list as 'theirs', have them discuss the list, have them colour in a list and put it on the wall 2

Michael J Proctor Add shopping’s did wonders for me 1

Nikki Young Read 'The Explosive Child' by Dr Ross Green. Anger is anxiety which is caused by an unmet need. Find out what his triggers are and help him to understand and express his feelings. ASD children are not the same as other children and may be triggered by sensory issues or overwhelmed by things that would not upset NT children. Empathy and understanding are the key. Do lots of research on Autism, Tony Attwood's books are good, as is The National Autustic Society website. He's not being naughty, he is frustrated/anxious/overwhelmed and desperately wants to be understood. 2

Michelle Morgan Hollingsworth With myself & my son, routines play a huge part in managing our stress. Routine in day to day as well as food. Knowing what to expect (limiting surprises) helps a lot. Change and unexpected things Are inevitable, but when most of your life is routine, the unexpected is a little easier to handle. I know figuring out what the triggers are can be very time consuming and stressful, but it's worth it in the end. I am 55 years old, newly diagnosed, but I still have most of the same triggers today that I have always had. They haven't changed much for me. 1

Joey Neal Something causing them is there a bully botheing him OR CVOULD BE SOMETHING ELSE IN MY CASE MY SISTER FROM ABUSE SHE CAUSED ME TO HAVE LOT MELTDOWNS AND THEN SHE RECORED THEM TELLING OTHERS i AM MENTALLY ILL SEEKING JUSTIC NOW FOR ALL THE STUFF SHE DONE.. sorry caps anyways try find out what borthing him that is what causing the meldowns and outburst.. 1

Singles with Disabilities Many thanks for your response dear friends. The problem seems to be overstimulation, causing frustration. We'll work with the doctors to see the best way forward. Thanks again 1

Frank Cedillo Toys

Sophie Byers Okay, your child doesn’t not have Asperger’s. Usually kids with Asperger’s at that age are usually mostly controlled with their behavior.

Doink McDoinkerson No, that's how to make enemies. 5

Luke Pippin Ok... next book to read; “How to talk to people” 2

Brianna Regina Our traits are special so prob no one

Steffi-Louise Stackpoole A lot of people have traits of autism. A lot of the traits aren’t “specific” to autism, and can be found in other developmental, mental health, or brain injury conditions. But it’s when the traits cluster together, are from birth (so neurodevelopmental) and they are much more overwhelming is when there is a diagnosis of autism. 3

Silvana Andric many ... a portions of it.... 1

Russell Summers It is a spectrum. 1

Evelyn Ebenstein Filippi tyty all

Gerald Hughes You did say ‘traits’ not ‘behaviors’. There are 16 basic profiles for perceiving and processing sensory information. By my reckoning, 8 of those 16 make up the ADHD and Autism Spectrum and one is the Aspergers profile. Therefore roughly 1/16th of the population share the same sensory profile as aspies. 2

Eugene Szumlas Our traits are very special. Especially when you keep an open mind and realize it's not a disability at all although it may seem like it a little bit in the world we live in but we've been given the gift of logic we think logically and it's frustrating honestly when nobody else can see it for understand it like we do but people are out here doing so many things making no sense at all hurting the world like they are nowadays and I can't help but to see it as almost an upgrade anymore our traits if you will because if logic is our gift and there's such an explosion and autism maybe we're just replacing the older illogical models that weren't really doing too much good for the planet or other people for that matter and we're also for the most part highly tuned and pass although they say we lack it it's more like we're numb to it but we can feel what others feel what the planet even feels kind of like mother nature defending itself with us but with those things being considered if you don't have it you probably won't understand it and it always bothered me how they could go push a diagnosis on somebody calling them disabled when really this is a gift although it's a painful one sometimes when nobody else thinks like you and you can't seem to even make friends on this planet but who knows it may change soon once enough of us roll off that production line I just think it's a cool way to look at it and I've had to go through a lot to get to my level of understanding with things but don't ever let the system tell you it's a disability or try to put you on meds because you're different maybe you're different for a reason and maybe they're just threatened by that difference knowing they're about to be replaced by the newer models and that they're little system isn't going to really hold together much longer as we explode off the production line in greater and greater numbers. Meeting like-minded individuals is pretty much key to this whole loneliness feeling I guess though but none of these pages will even let me post things to try to unite people in their own areas like how harmful is it for someone to post the city and state they're in and if you're close to someone on the list you can connect with them if you want plain and simple that's not harmful in any way but they won't let me post it and I've tried so many times and it's really starting to look suspicious that's why would you not want us to meet up with others in our area if this is really to help us? I mean that's one of the big things I see in a lot of these posts are how lonely people are and want some sort of connection but I try to do it and give them that connection and this stupid page won't even let me post it none of them will 5

Carrie Love Play GIF

Marilyn Mitchell there are varying degrees of Aspie.

Stephanie Leskowitz The more research my husband and I have done regarding my son, we feel we have some traits too. 1

Jordan Matthew Hurley Ramen and Tuna Snacks

Maddison Hardie Lots of foods. I go through phases. 1

Alex Hoxeng Jimmy John’s I now live in the delivery area it’s great I’ve ordered from there four times in six days not to mention how many times I’ve gotten pick up from there in five years obviously not as frequently

Dakota North General Tao Chicken 1

Pól O'Laoghaire Once I have an attraction to the texture then I can eat it forever. Popcorn is my forever food.I then float in and out of other foods as the notion comes to me.

Nicholas Ellis Brianna Regina I can.

Plaxton Emmons Roast beef po-boy

Terence Pope Cranberry sauce

Justin Criswell Supreme pizza and dr. Pepper 1

Jeanna Bidlack Sugary cereal

Alex Ocana I drink a lot of homemade passion fruit juice alternatively (on different days) with sour orange/grapefruit juice. Been doing that for years. I chew a fresh mint leaf before going to sleep, every night last thing.

Ami Lavacek Crackers 2

Barry Flowers Chicken curries, spag bol, chile con carne. Apart from the odd fish n chips and occasional change that’s been just about my whole menu for the last gosh how many years.

Lana Baker Spaghetti bolonais 1

Steve Jones Steak, ramen noodles, beef pho..

Suzanne Fields Beans and cornbread.. fried Potatoes. Chicken and dumplings ..spam sandwich 1

Lesley Baird Boy, tons of food crazes. Lately it's been bagel sandwiches made from cream cheese, smoked salmon, tomato and onion. Sometimes it's pizza, ramen noodles, liverwurst sandwiches ... clamato juice .... potato chips and dip ...the grocery store is full of earthly delights!

Jordan Igou I could never get tired of fruit and I'm sad if I ever run out of fruit lol

Ralphy Scout Varela-Urizar Pizza will never break my heart. 1

Doink McDoinkerson I often end up in the same routines for food. Since I don't have a lot of money I rarely eat out, so I make most of it at home.

Debby Stephens Salad

Scott Wilhelm I tend to eat a lot of the same food. I bake my own whole wheat scones and soda bread. I eat a lot of fruit: apples, oranges, bananas, mostly. I eat a lot of pork shoulder and chicken. I save the drippings to make soup and pies.

Cynthia Marcotte Stamer My son eats Ranen

Eugene Szumlas I love gyros... I have no clue why but they are delicious... Also I love weird things like asparagus and brussel sprouts and definitely have to have fresh veggies with a nice piece of meat for dinner but even some days I go without the meat and just gorge on veggies. Here lately though I've had a sugar kick and tend to crave peanut M&Ms, Chocolate Milk, and nerds... 1

Carol Mitchell Kaye Peanut butter. I eat it on apples for lunch and on celery at night for a snack.

John O'Neal Wheaties

Chrissi M. Fischer Pizza

Kathleen Weber Carlin My son eats peanut butter sandwiches, ramen, and refried beans everyday. For dinner he’ll eat whatever meat I make - chicken, beef, pork and he loves my lasagna!

Nikki Young Chicken and chips, chocolate

Sun Bob Ramen, mc&cheese & canned meatloaf. Rice and macaroni.

Amanda Thompson I don't have Asperger's but I can eat chicken pot pie homemade.

Amanda Bailey Cole It changes for me. Sometimes it's eggs, other times it's noodles or noodle based meal. I can eat for weeks and then suddenly I don't want it anymore.

Moneymade Streaming Chicken chips ...although its not healthy

Noah Keion Jackson Peanut butter cookies

Julian Gelner Âû Egg salad sandwiches

Andrew Morton Me

Trevor James Vanderlan I’ve been eating the same stuff for years.

Brianne Thomson I eat bacon like every day

Des Iree Menudo, Lumpia, (good) sushi, cleaned & cooked squid and other seafood, calamari, Ono (fish), sopa, chilaquiles, baklava, avocado, seaweed, walnuts, blueberries, homemade shakes, hamburgers, rare steaks, sunny side up eggs, French toast, etc etc. It's interesting though because I rarely "feel" hungry. So I sometimes forget to eat but if I'm around really good food I crave it.I can't eat the same foods as my son (I'm on keto) so that makes it more difficult. He's on the spectrum too so he doesn't feel hunger and it can be really hard to make him eat even if it's delicious and smells great. He's *very* texture sensitive and cannot have different colors or flavors in his food. He notices *every* small thing I do to try to sneak in more calories like if I took 1 tbsp whipping cream into his chocolate milk and will notice and refuse it. I was absolutely the same at his age though. People thought I was picky but I'd literally throw up just due to texture. And my son is very OCD too on top of it. So he also expects and needs consistency. So I've been thinking about looking for something to prep food that is one container with several different dividers in it. That way there are dividers to keep his foods apart and from touching each other.

Darek Glabikowski Pasta with tomato sauce

Cortney Jones My daughter would eat Ramen noodles for every meal if I would let her